“I honestly believe we are born perfectly whole and complete. We just don’t know how to navigate this plane, so we look to parents, families, and teachers for guidance. They try to help us survive out of love, but they teach from their own experiences, which are not ours. We take that information and end up moving further away from our true selves. My work is about finding your way back to that perfect person, giving them the mic, and celebrating them. I refer to myself as ‘Your Soul Alignment Guide’ because it is about the work and the impact. The structures and systems we built our existence on are currently crumbling because we are undergoing a huge shift. The conditioned versions of ourselves won’t survive this transition, but the perfect, complete version of you — the one with a purpose — will thrive joyfully. I am here to help you get back to that.”
I had the pleasure of talking with Becky Sheehan. In the grand landscape of modern wellness, where self-help gurus often sell a polished illusion of perfection, Sheehan stands out by walking a much grittier, more authentic path. She operates as an intuition coach and a ‘Soul Alignment Guide,’ a title that only scratches the surface of her complicated journey. Born in Brooklyn before relocating to the sun-baked sprawl of Orlando, Florida, during middle school, she describes herself as being on the very cusp end of Generation X. That relocation was a profound culture shock for an intuitive kid who was already absorbing the emotional weight of every room she entered.
“Very early on, I recognized that I was an intuitive child and picked up on absolutely everything,” Sheehan says during our interview. Long before she had the vocabulary to understand neurodivergence or a late-in-life AuDHD diagnosis, the world was already telling her to shrink. “I was told a lot of things about myself: that I was a little too much, a little too wild, that I needed to be more of this and less of that.”
To survive the pressure, Sheehan became a chameleon. She turned to drama and musical theater, transforming a profound sensitivity into a tool for mimicking the behaviors that made people feel comfortable. But carrying the weight of constantly wearing masks eventually breaks the wearer. During her college years, an accumulation of sudden, tragic losses shattered her reality. Without the capacity or the support system to navigate the profound grief, she suffered a massive breakdown. She withdrew from school and began a long, difficult journey through therapy to address deep-seated trauma and severe PTSD from her early childhood.
Motherhood arrived early, and Sheehan poured her entire being into raising her five children, putting her own dreams completely on hold. She was determined to break the cycle of her own youth, making sure her kids never felt like they were “too much.” She wanted them to know that it was perfectly acceptable to feel things deeply, yet she also taught them how not to let those emotions consume their lives. Even as she built a safe haven for her family, however, her own sense of self-worth continued to spiral downward.
The turning point arrived just before the world shut down for COVID. Sheehan felt the familiar, heavy pull of depression creeping back in. In a moment of quiet desperation, she leaned entirely on her spiritual intuition. “I said, ‘I can’t do this again. I don’t know what I need to do, but help me find it,’” she recalls. The answer came through a clear inner voice urging her to call an old friend and learn their trade. Despite the awkwardness of the request, she made the call. That single, brave conversation opened the door to her extensive training in energetic modalities, subconscious reprogramming, and Human Design.
Today, Sheehan uses these structural and spiritual frameworks to help high-achievers, neurodivergent individuals, and struggling families dismantle toxic productivity. Her work is about recognizing behavioral patterns and doing the heavy lifting of real healing. A stark example of this is the story of a man she met in a community empowerment group. Broken by divorce, alienated from his children, and so consumed by shame that he refused to use his given name, he was entirely lost. Sheehan did not offer him empty platitudes. Instead, she respectfully challenged the beliefs destroying him. “I asked him questions about where he was operating from — who told him he needed to be a certain way, that he had to make certain people happy, or that everything about him was wrong,” she explains. Within a year, the man had reclaimed his name, rebuilt the bridge to his children, and even founded a judgment-free faith community. “Almost every time I talk to him, he credits me for this transformation,” she says. “While I appreciate the credit, I tell him I am just a vessel delivering what comes through. He did the work.”
Sheehan’s capacity to hold space for others was forged in the fires of her own intense personal adversity. Ten years into her marriage, she and her husband hit a devastating crisis. With no roadmap for how to survive it, she leaned heavily on her faith, referring to the Almighty simply as Creator — a deliberate choice to bypass the heavy baggage of religious conditioning and make everyone feel safe. In her darkest moment, she received an undeniable message: “He might have abandoned you, but I never will.” Following a serendipitous encounter with a stranger, the couple found a church offering free, professional marriage counseling. They faced the brokenness head-on. Now, celebrating their twentieth anniversary, they are completely transformed and even coach other couples through similar darkness. “It taught me that in moments when I feel I am not strong enough to survive, I absolutely can,” she notes.
Sheehan’s methodology is rooted in the belief that we are already whole, just buried beneath years of conditioning. She does not want to change her clients; she wants to introduce them to the people they already are. As she puts it, boundaries are not walls to keep people out, but rather a loving instruction manual on how to interact with her at her best. By blending deep empathy with a refusal to operate strictly from logic, Sheehan offers a radical proposition: that true success is simply feeling like yourself again, and allowing that person out into the wild.
Yitzi: Becky Sheehan, it’s such an honor to meet you. Before we dive in and talk about your amazing work, our readers would love to learn about your personal origin story. Can you share with us the story of your childhood, how you grew up, and particularly the seeds of the genesis for all the amazing work that has come since then?
Becky: What a great question. I am at the very cusp end of Gen X. I was born in Brooklyn and grew up in a mixture of Staten Island and the Orlando, Florida area, where we moved around my middle school days. That was a bit of a shell shock. There is a big difference between New York energy and Florida energy.
I had two amazing parents who had very interesting ideas of what they wanted for me. In typical youngest child fashion, I went my own direction and became the weird one in the family. I have a brother and sister, and I had another brother who passed away before I was born. We grew up very protected and sheltered.
Very early on, I recognized that I was an intuitive child and picked up on absolutely everything. I picked up people’s energies. I knew when people were okay or when there was something a little off about a situation. I navigated through life from that perspective. I also didn’t find out until much more recently that I am neurodivergent; I am AuDHD.
As a young child raised in the 80s, there wasn’t an understanding of what my challenges were. I was told a lot of things about myself: that I was a little too much, a little too wild, that I needed to be more of this and less of that. In order to succeed and survive, I was told I had to make myself more like this person or that person. It did a lot to my self-worth and self-esteem, but it also got me fascinated with human behavior and human studies.
I pursued drama as a result, which I thought was really interesting. I became excellent at studying people and understanding how they changed and shifted in different environments. I was a beautiful mimic of everything I saw. I did really well with drama and loved musical theater because I am a music girl at heart. I did lots of musical theater and went to college to pursue it.
Somewhere during college, I had a massive breakdown. I lost a lot of people in a very short amount of time in tragic ways, and I didn’t have the capacity or the support system to navigate that. I ended up withdrawing from school, returning home, and going to a lot of therapy.
A profound realization I had during that moment was that I didn’t have to stay with a therapist who didn’t understand me. I went through a couple of different therapists until I found people who had the capacity to truly see me, hold space for me, and understand me. They helped navigate me through severe PTSD, trauma, and other struggles from my early childhood.
I became a mom very early on. I have five kids. My whole life was put on hold; all my dreams and everything I wanted to do were pushed aside because I was raising these beautiful human beings. More than anything else in this world, I wanted them to grow up with a strong sense of self. I didn’t want them to ever struggle with their own worth or value.
I did my best to instill that it was okay to feel things deeply, talk about feelings, and take ownership of them. However, I also taught them not to let their feelings overpower or control them. I wanted them to know they are sovereign and have control over their lives.
Along the way, I wanted to heal myself completely. There were many aspects I did heal, but my sense of self-worth kept ebbing at me. I think much of it had to do with being constantly told that I was too much, too little, and not enough. I didn’t know who to be, and I couldn’t make anybody happy, which made me spiral downward.
Right before COVID, I had a profound moment when I noticed I was slipping into depression again. I leaned on my intuition and my spiritual connection with Creator. I said, “I can’t do this again. I don’t know what I need to do, but help me find it.” I heard very clearly: call this person up and do what they’re doing.
I am the type of person who will have that weird conversation. I called them and said, “I know this is going to sound weird, but what is this work you are you doing? Because I heard I am supposed to do what you’re doing.” They were surprised, but I asked them to tell me. That began my training in various energetic modalities and belief work.
I became an advanced certified ThetaHealer®️. I learned how to use my intuitive gifts to create healing for myself and those around me. I was trained in Access Consciousness® ️ an energetic modality built around destroying belief systems, that broke open many doors for me. I began to develop and cultivate a great number of tools. As an avid student of human behavior, I absorbed everything I could get my hands on to help navigate the complexities of what I was dealing with in a more freeing way. This allowed me to truly embrace and understand myself.
That led me to Human Design, which is the foundation of most of the work I do. It starts with Human Design, and everything else comes on a case-by-case basis. Much of my work is individualized; it depends on who you are, where you are at, and what you need. I lean on my intuitive gifts and knowing. Every experience is unique because we are all different individuals. We have different blocks, different needs, and different boundaries regarding how we allow people to connect with us.
I have used all these tools to have amazing, unique experiences with people and to bring change and healing into their lives. I never get tired of hearing from my clients and seeing how far they have come — from where they started to doing a complete 180. Seeing them more joyful and operating from a different space of being fills me up. It is one of the most amazing feelings in the world.
As you can hear from my childhood story, more than anything, I want people to be madly in love with who they were created to be. I want them to know they are enough and don’t need to be anybody else. They don’t need to make themselves smaller, bigger, or put on a mask. Who they are is exactly who they came here to be, and that is the gift. That is the foundation of my work, and I am entirely in love with it.
I especially love training with families. Many of my kids are neurodivergent as well. Being able to help parents understand their children’s uniqueness, needs, how they operate, how they look at the world, and their gifts is crucial. I help them see their children fully as human beings and unique little miracles, rather than mini-versions of themselves sent out to represent them. These are unique, once-in-a-lifetime individuals who deserve to be seen and heard. When parents can do that, they create immensely rich relationships with their kids, just as I have with mine.
Recently, my nephew reached out to me. He lost his sister — my niece — who overdosed a couple of years ago. He was going through a very hard time and chose to call me to help navigate his feelings. He told me, “Even when I was the smallest kid, you never treated me like a child. You always treated me like a full person, and I never had that before.” I realized that every kid needs that, and that is what I hope to bring to the world.
Yitzi: Becky, you’re an amazing storyteller. Speaking of stories, I’m sure you have some amazing ones from different parts of your career and the different ways you’ve helped people. Can you share with our readers two stories that stand out in your mind from your career without saying any identifiable names?
Becky: I have a dear friend who was new to me at the beginning. I co-run a free empowerment call to help shift people’s states of being into something more powerful. He came to this community with a heartbreakingly hard life. He was healing from the loss of family, went through a divorce, and his relationship with his kids was severely damaged. He had previous battles he had dealt with and was losing his sense of identity. He didn’t want to go by his given name anymore; he wanted to be called something completely opposite because he felt his name carried shame and wanted to be liberated from it.
So, he was going by a different name, and my heart broke listening to him. I knew it didn’t have to be this way, but I didn’t know him well, so I respectfully felt out the situation. He had gone to the church to help find his way but was not fully seen or given the support he needed. I had a conversation with him where I started challenging his beliefs. I don’t do that with everybody, but I felt he needed to question what he was buying into. I asked him questions about where he was operating from — who told him he needed to be a certain way, that he had to make certain people happy, or that everything about him was wrong.
He eventually came to me and said my questions rattled him, but they were good, and he needed help. I began to coach him. I showed him his Human Design and who he was created to be. Fast forward about a year later, and he was a completely different energy. He reclaimed his name, his identity, and his faith. He founded an online community where all faiths and belief systems can come together, talk about how they align, and celebrate their commonality rather than pull everything apart.
He is doing amazing things. I called him up to leadership to start hosting things on my behalf, and he is stepping into it beautifully. He has restored his relationship with his children and his own sense of self. He has even become a mentor for others. Almost every time I talk to him, he credits me for everything he went through. While I appreciate the credit, I tell him I am just a vessel delivering what comes through. He did the work, listened, and made the significant changes. People who know him are amazed; he presents as a completely different person, much more joyful, and a vessel of love.
Another client I met completely by chance. Sometimes I just get an intuitive feeling about someone, walk up, and start a conversation. I introduced myself to this person and told them they felt lost to me. They were surprised, but I offered my contact information if they ever needed help. Eventually, I heard back from them, and we started doing calls.
They initially presented themselves as very serious and put together, but they began to feel safe with me and got vulnerable. We discovered many things in their life were not in alignment with who they authentically were. They were doing things they were told they needed to do to navigate the world. I guided them back to rediscovering their joy and creativity. This person is an absolutely amazing artist. They embraced art again, quit their job, and took time to process and find themselves. Not everybody has that luxury, but they were able to do it.
I continued to work with them, and they developed a much more grounded sense of self. They began to claim parts of their identity and tell their families important truths they hadn’t been brave enough to share before. I still work with this person, and they have blossomed beautifully. Success isn’t always about accomplishments on paper; it’s about feeling like yourself again, loving that person, and allowing them into the world in their most authentic state. This person has managed to do that joyfully and has attracted amazing people and opportunities into their life. Being a small part of that is truly amazing.
Yitzi: There’s a saying that the greatest university is adversity. What has hardship taught you that success never could?
Becky: Hardship has taught me that I am much bigger and more powerful than I believed myself to be. Right now, I am teaching about the hero’s journey in my empowerment call, specifically the “ordeal” stage — that moment where you have to trustfall and expect the world to catch you and bring you to the other side. I had my own moment like that.
We had a crisis in our marriage, and I didn’t know how we were going to continue. Navigating a marriage crisis was never modeled for me. The only thing I had was my communication with Creator. I received a message that said, “He might have abandoned you, but I never will. When you took your marriage vows, it was you, him, and me. I haven’t broken my vow to you. Let me show you what I can do with your husband.” I was stunned and thought, “Be my guest, because I don’t know what to do.”
Suddenly, I was told to contact a stranger I had met only once six months earlier, who had randomly given me their phone number. I called them, re-explained who I was, and poured out what I was going through. They were shocked but advised me to go to a specific church they had heard good things about.
All of this happened right before Christmas,and I broke down during a “Walk through Bethlehem” event. I went into a prayer tent and asked for prayer for my husband, explaining he was not acting like himself. I also accepted prayer for myself. I had promised to hold out and give Creator the opportunity to show what could be done with my husband.
I took my husband to the church the woman suggested I go to. This church provided free counseling from certified therapists and a marriage group for couples in crisis. We joined that group and became one of the strongest couples in it. Later, we trained for over a year to do marriage coaching, communication counseling, and teaching. In a very short time, our relationship did a complete 180. Despite parts of me being at war, my faith got me through. I saw that there was something deeper broken that needed healing, and we ran straight at it to heal it.
Next week is our 20th anniversary. This crisis happened right before our 10th anniversary, and for the past ten years, I have had the marriage of my dreams with the most incredible partner. He is a completely different human being now. People often refer to us as “couple goals,” and I embrace that. Part of embodying couple-goals is staying committed and deciding not to give up. Some days are ugly, and some days are joyful beyond words, but you show up every day and give it your best.
Because of our experience, we have been able to influence and help many other relationships navigate through hardships. It is one of the things I am most proud of in my entire life — staying, doing the work, and having a partner committed to doing the same. It taught me that in moments when I feel I am not strong enough to survive, I absolutely can. Not only can I survive, but I can triumph over it, heal my family, and heal others through example. I transmuted a tragic period into my biggest success story.
Yitzi: Becky, this is our signature question. You’ve been blessed with a lot of success and must have learned a lot from your experiences. Looking back to when you first started your consultancy, can you share five things you’ve learned over the years that would have been nice to know when you first started?
Becky:
- The first thing is to always trust your intuition. If something tells you not to work with a client right now, listen to it. Don’t allow emotional manipulation to pull you in a different direction.
- The second thing is that you are not for everyone. There is no one-size-fits-all approach. There are people you will connect with and do extraordinary things alongside, and there are people who won’t allow you access. It has nothing to do with you personally or your abilities; you just aren’t the person meant to help them. Trust that someone else is out there waiting for them.
- The third thing is patience.
- The fourth thing goes hand-in-hand with patience: be true to yourself. I struggled because we live in a time saturated with marketing and social media where there is a constant need to sell yourself. I spent so much time healing my self-worth that I decided I wouldn’t prove my value to anyone. I want my work, talents, and skills to speak for themselves. I want to become successful because people tell others about me. I never regret taking that approach, though I am now venturing into social media in my own way. Above all else, be true to who you are.
- I would say the fifth is: never operate strictly from your head, logic, or conditioning. Information is good, but your inner-knowing is the best place to operate from. In the beginning, friends recommended people to me, and I had some horrific, dramatic experiences. People expected me to be a psychic telling their future, which scared me and made me pull back. But my inner knowing guided me to show up for strangers in profound ways, trusting the universe to handle the rest. Show up authentically with your heart, compassion, and care.
- I would also add that boundaries are important. I struggled with boundary work for a long time because it felt cold to say no. However, through my intuitive connection, I realized that boundaries are actually the most loving instruction manual you can hand someone. They tell people how to get you at your very best. If I want to show up as my absolute best self for you, certain boundaries help me get to that place. Looking at it from that perspective completely sold me on the importance of boundaries.
Yitzi: I love how you refer to the Almighty as Creator. I’m just curious, was there a specific intentionality when you leave out the particle ‘the’?
Becky: Yes. I think we all talk about the same creative energy, but religions have different names for it. The moment we start giving it different names, people react differently, especially when it doesn’t align with what they were taught. Religious conditioning is one of the biggest blocks we struggle against in order to live fully and authentically. When we use the word ‘the’ referring to creative energy it creates a separation between us and the Almighty when in fact there is no separation — we all hold that energy within ourselves. Because people come from so many different backgrounds, I tend to use language to not trigger people because everyone has a different belief system and they are all valid.
By referring to that energy as Creator, it becomes something everyone can recognize and connect to without bias, attachments, or judgments. It’s just that creative spark that started it all. Sometimes I also refer to it as the universe. Using these terms allows me to work with many different people without them feeling judged or uncomfortable. I want everyone to feel seen, heard, and safe to share what they need to share.
Yitzi: I could really talk to you for many more hours, but I want to respect your time. Becky, how can our readers continue to follow your work? How can they engage your services and support you?
Becky: I have my website, www.yoursoulalignmentguide.com which represents the foundation of my work. I am here to help people find their way back to themselves and who they were created to be. Your existence matters, the world needs you, and it needs the version of you that you were designed to be.
I honestly believe we are born perfectly whole and complete. We just don’t know how to navigate this plane, so we look to parents, families, and teachers for guidance. They try to help us survive out of love, but they teach from their own experiences, which are not ours. We take that information and end up moving further away from our true selves. My work is about finding your way back to that perfect person, giving them the mic, and celebrating them.
I refer to myself as “Your Soul Alignment Guide” because it is about the work and the impact. The structures and systems we built our existence on are currently crumbling because we are undergoing a huge shift. The conditioned versions of ourselves won’t survive this transition, but the perfect, complete version of you — the one with a purpose — will thrive joyfully. I am here to help you get back to that. You can also follow me on social media under @yoursoulalignmentguide .
Yitzi: It’s been such a joy to meet you. I wish you continued success, blessings, and good health, and I hope we can do this again soon.
Becky: Yes, I would love to. Have you ever done Human Design? If you are curious, you have my email. I would love to gift you a Human Design session to get to know the modality I base my work on. It’s a really cool experience and extremely valuable. That’s my offer to you, but no worries either way.
Yitzi: Sounds fascinating. I would love to. Becky, I wish you an amazing day, and we’ll be in touch.
Becky Sheehan on Intuition, Neurodivergence and Helping People ‘Find Their Way Back to Themselves’ was originally published in Authority Magazine on Medium, where people are continuing the conversation by highlighting and responding to this story.